
I finally set down at my desk to do some heavy sorting and cleaning of all the boxes filled with pictures and letters and things I couldn't bring my heart to throw away. Like my kids first paintings (of course I will not chuck them ever, but have to bundle them and make a book of sorts).
Ohhhh, those memories! Friends and lovers and more friends! Love letters from 35 years ago, can you imagine! Greetings from all over the world from students at the german language courses at university Stuttgart I organized since 1978.
So many we had visited later and they had visited us - then it was me, my husband
Roland (divorced in 1986), since 1980 our son Alex and only 15 months later in 1982 Anna, the daughter. Tomorrow will be her 25th birthday already. Time runs fast.
Back to love letters: I even found a few of mine. Haven't changed much since then, it seems. ;)
I'll have to try finding a few of my friends I haven't met through the years. Students tend to move around a lot, so I lost track of them. Not
Bettina, of course not, we stay in touch since more than 30 years now, moved from Düsseldorf to Stuttgart, both of us.
Others, I read about, saw them on tv even, or on the web. Lots of teachers, a few at university, celebrities.
Regina and
Frank, with whom I was into university politics for years in the 70s, now teachers at university.
Bernd and
Karin, then a couple, now married and still working together (at the
Heinrich-Heine-Institute) on Heinrich Heine and the Vormärz, like we all did studying with
Manfred Windfuhr, great teacher and famous editor of the
Düsseldorfer Heine-Edition.
Hubert and
Volker who knew even on their first day at university they would be working on german literature and be famous one day. Well, they sure do.
All those friends haven't changed at all, just got older and wiser.
Then again so many of my very best friends are gone for ever.
Michael committed suicide, I received the letter he wrote to me just before he died,
his brother Dieter sent the message on to me, with the special drawing Michael always attached to all of his letters, cards, and short notes to me. Helga climbed up the university building in Stuttgart and jumped down. I was sitting in my trade union office across the road then, only a few meters away. She and her husband
Werner had helped me a lot when I was suffering before the divorce. How comes so many choose not to live on when so very young still?
Willi and
Wolfgang died not long ago in their fifties; they are buried close to Wolfgang's brother Willy, in Kelheim. Three best friends, all gone in less than a year, together again, neighbours say.
Wolfgang died of cancer, same as
Ernho,
Hansi, Marion, and my dear friend
Billy. We had had plans to travel the world together during my sabbatical. He died just a few weeks before. Sigh.
When Willi died in 2004, his former girlfriend and good friend of mine, Maria, found me on the web to tell me about it. I went to the funeral with her and her husband. Since then we stay in touch. With his sister Ursel in Madrid as well.
But all the others? In Denmark, England, France, Italy, Spain, Sweden, Poland...? I'll try to find them.
In the end, what matters is not work, but people. Family and friends.